We can all name the cartoonishly obvious signs of doggy affection: slobbery kisses from forehead to chin, or exuberant tail wags that involve the entire back half of the dog. Even a mouthing dog might be showing his eager affection—some retrievers seem to feel that all of life’s most wonderful moments are more meaningful with something, anything, in their mouths.
But dog affection isn’t always as obvious as you’d think! Learn some ways dogs show their affection, how you can show it back in dog language, some of the most affectionate dog breeds, and what to do if your dog is not affectionate.
7 Ways Dogs Show Love
Even if your dog isn’t an exuberantly waggy licker, you’re treated to signs of affection from your dog every day. Some signs are subtler, and they’re easy to miss unless you know what to look for. Here are seven ways dogs “say” they love you.
1. They Make Eye Contact
In general, dogs don’t like eye contact. Prolonged eye contact is a sign of aggression in dogs that can spell trouble. So when your dog meets your eyes for a few seconds with a soft, relaxed expression on his face, it’s a clear sign he’s comfortable with you and confident you’d never do him harm. (Keep in mind, few dogs will sustain eye contact beyond a few seconds, even with those they love.)
2. They Lean on You
When you’re sitting on the couch and your dog leans his body weight against your legs, he’s showing his affection. Of all the cozy spots for your dog in the house, there’s no place more comforting than right next to you. Pressing his weight against you reassures him as he rests or takes a nap. This is more common in large dog breeds than in toy breeds, who are routinely held safely in your arms or sitting cozy in your lap.
3. They Snuggle With Your Dirty Laundry
If you have to check your dog’s bed or crate for missing dirty socks and T-shirts every laundry day, take it for the compliment it is. Your dog knows your smell and finds comfort in it when you’re out of sight. For a dog with separation anxiety, it may be helpful to consciously place a few items of unwashed clothes near him when you leave him home alone.
4. They Lick Your Face
Dog kisses usually mean exactly what you guess they do—your dog thinks you’re the cat’s meow. Licking is an instinctual canine behavior that soothes and deepens social bonds between mother dogs and their pups, and among littermates. When you become a member of your dog’s pack, he’ll lick your face to strengthen your relationship, whether you’re a fan of dog kisses, or you duck to avoid the slobber.
5. They Wag Their Tails.
A fast, full-circle wag that gets your dog’s entire backside involved is a clear sign he’s overjoyed to see you. But other tail wags can indicate hesitation, agitation, or even dog hostility. Depending on the circumstances, slow wags and stiff wags may indicate your dog is feeling anxious or he’s on the offensive.
6. They Know When You’re Sad.
Does your dog snuggle close when you are crying or sad and seem to understand there’s something wrong? As pack animals, dogs look out for each other in good times and bad. When you’re having a bad day, your dog instinctively wants to help you feel better.
7. They Share Their Toys With You
If your dog drops his favorite toys at your feet, bounds around, and looks at you expectantly, he’s telling you he wants to play. But when he drops his toys near you and walks off for a rest in his bed, let it warm your heart. Your dog is sharing his treasures with you—his favorite person.
How to Show Your Dog Affection
You love your dog—so much that you want to make sure your affection makes him feel warm and fuzzy, not just you. Fantastic! Now that we’ve done some dog-to-human translation, let’s take it in the opposite direction. Here are some ways you can say “I love you” back, speaking in your dog’s own language.
Pet Your Dog Pleasantly
Rib-thumping pats that a dog turns to nose at… claps on the top of his head that make him blink and back away… bear hugs that make him feel trapped… not everything we mean as physical affection comes across that way to every dog.
Okay, so some hardy sporting breeds don’t seem to mind those genial rib-thumping pats, and might even stick around for the well-meant thwacks on the noggin. But here are some types of physical affection that are almost always popular. See what your four-legged friend thinks of these:
- Scratches at the front of the chest
- Belly rubs
- Ear massages
- Long pets down the side of the body
Speak Warmly to Your Dog
Have you ever tried to cheerfully praise a dog with the “wrong” words, saying e.g., “what a bad, baaaad dog… he’s so bad…”? It works! He doesn’t care what you say, as long as you say it with warmth and good cheer.
Your dog pays a lot more attention to the tone of your voice than to the words themselves. After all, dogs’ vocalizations to each other rely on tone, not specific words. So if you’re happy and loving, let him hear it in your voice.
Keep Your Eyes Open
Just like your dog might be tuned in to your mood—your good and bad days, your cheerful and troubled moments—let him feel that you’re tuned in to his, too.
I once overheard a trainer explain that whenever he’s out and about with his dog, he is consistently aware of his companion—in the same way, he realized, as he had been when he took his grandmother to a busy carnival that weekend. He didn’t keep an eagle eye on grandma every second, but maintained open awareness of the situation around them, and took the time to check in every so often to see how she was doing with the crowds and all the walking. Your own mileage may vary (like your own dog and your own grandmother), but your role is to be tuned in to how he is doing. Your dog will notice when you are tuned in with him.
When to Give Your Dog Affection
There’s no need to worry about when to give your dog affection if your relationship is humming along just fine: Be affectionate whenever it suits both of you. The free flow of loving feelings is so rewarding. But if you’re working on trouble spots to make your relationship with your dog stronger, or if your dog is pushier than you like in demanding affection, you might have him politely follow a simple command first. Check with a trainer to see if this would be a good idea for you.
Some Breeds Tend to Be More Affectionate Than Others
The most affectionate dog breeds are known for demonstrating their love unreservedly at every opportunity. Snuggles and cuddles, licks and wags: If you thrive on displays of affection, one of these breeds known for wearing their big hearts on their sleeves might be a good fit for you:
- Beauty and charm? That’s a Golden Retriever for you. These guys love showing their love…and they seem to have a bottomless supply.
- The Labrador Retriever has been America’s sweetheart for decades, and his natural affection has a lot to do with that record.
- Sporting dogs with a lap-dog stature and outsized charm, Cavalier King Charles Spaniels seem made to express loving delight, and they do so at every opportunity.
- When your Pug is happy to see you, he doesn’t keep it a secret. These small clowns are known for their outgoing, affectionate natures.
- Less clown-like and gregarious than the other breeds on this list, American Staffordshire Terriers are meltingly sweet and affectionate.
If you are looking for the perfect breed for you, take a look at our dog breed selector for more ideas. These are definitely not the only breeds who can claim a lot of affectionate members. And every dog is his own individual, regardless of breed: Some individuals of the above breeds are more affectionate than average, and some less. But on the whole, these breeds have certainly wagged their way to well-deserved affectionate reputations.
My Dog Is Not Affectionate
Maybe your dog is more the strong, silent type. Perhaps he needs his personal space and cuddling simply makes him tense.
If you have a dog who is not demonstrative with his affection, remember that still waters run deep. Even if your dog isn’t one to cover you in slobber or sprain his tail from “over-wag,” that doesn’t mean you don’t hold the top spot in his heart.
Look out for the particular ways your dog naturally shows you he cares: Does he prefer to lie in the same room with you? Occasionally offer a single lick or proffer a paw that he doesn’t offer to people outside his pack? Does he sometimes lean on your knees, or bring you his toys, or does he keep an eye on your feelings? Deepen your bond with him by meeting him where he is. If his “love language” is going for a run or chasing a ball that you throw, doing those activities with him is a way to show him you care.
Whether your dog makes a cozy nest in your lap or prefers the glow he gets from watching you from across the room, he shows you how much you mean to him in his own special ways. Keep your eyes open and you’ll come to appreciate—and reciprocate—his natural approach to affection.
Yawns can also be a sign of stress. Also yawning at your dog after he licks your face indicates an “I love you’ to the dog.
My dog Miles was dumped over a year ago and It took 2 towns to finally catch him..An anonymous person called the police Dept and told them they knew the owners and they never wanted him and they deliberately dumped him and it was apparent.. He was missing but patches of fur, his skin stunk because it was infected and a double ear infection.. Needless to say the vet said he was as project in the works and couldn’t guarantee his for would grow back but it did after 2 months of medication and medicated baths.. Needless to say MILES hugs me every day to thank me….. priceless
God bless you! That was a wonderful gift for the both of you ❤️
I pray miles lives a super long healthy life years beyond his life expectancy
We have a pit bull terrier. His name is Bubby. My youngest brought him back with him from Texas. Bubby is the best thing that happened to me. He’s extremely affectionate. Good night kisses. Rubs his body on me. Rubs his body on my bed. He hates seeing me cry or in pain. The goes nuts when I baby him. I sometimes think he’s human in how much he understands what’s going on around him. I thank God he brought him to us (my sons and I) . He’s my big baby! And people need to learn it’s the owner of the dog you need to be aware of.
I absolutely agree! I love pit bulls! They are some of the most amazing, loving, affectionate resilient dogs in the world! I am so happy for you! Give Buddy some love for me!
I have a Blue Nose Pit Rescue. Loves women. Not men so much. Was saved by a female Rescue lady. Obviously mistreated by men. Very protective of my wife and me.Not the best dog I ever had but I sure love this some would call bad doggie. Laying against my leg in RV right now Have him 4 years now.8 now. Brought him back 85 percent. Pits are misunderstood
Not important really but abouts where in texas if I may ask??? I got a big baby 3yrs old on oct 4th =so 21 ? shares the pillow when we sleeping, very protective, I wanna breed him one time but scared cuz this other dog got him twice. We fixed him our selfs but after that I dont trust other dogs around him as they attacked him out the blue.. hes a German shepherd, red nose pit, looks like a ridge back I use to have #sarge
In what world do you live? Dangerous animals and dangerous animals, not because or despite their “owners” but for their DNA . . . ever hear of it? I have only trained dogs for 50+ years, what do I know . . . a lot!
I’m not sure “what world you live in”? You might have trained dogs for 50+ years but you have to be the absolute worst trainer and/or exquisitely ignorant if you are inferring pit bulls are dangerous animals because of their DNA.
What do you know? Clearly nothing.
All dogs can be dangerous but pitbulls are a little different and more dangerous in their methods of attacking and biting. Most dog maulings that resulted in death of human or animal was pitbull.
I think the misunderstanding of about pit bulls is, you can have a sweet pit for 14 yrs, never one problem, loves everyone. But, that same dog is CAPABLE of maiming or killing you. That is the fear most people have. Of the pits capabilities.
I’m not sure “what world you live in”? You might have trained dogs for 50+ years but you have to be the absolute worst trainer and/or exquisitely ignorant if you are inferring pit bulls are dangerous animals because of their DNA.
What do you know? Clearly nothing.
I am not sure what you are talking about if you trained dogs for 50 years then you should know it’s all in how they are trained and how they are treated. Yes their DNA matters if you get a dog who may have been bred very poorly to close relatives, then there could be issues with mental states and physical deformities. I am a registered dog groomer and have groomed many types of dogs over the years and i’ve had more issues with small breeds than larger breeds. I currently have a 9 month old Cane Corso/Great Dane mix, she is unfixed, never trained, never socialized, and never housebroken. She is very stubborn as both of those breeds are, she was abused so i’m working from scratch with this dog. I must say they aren’t the brightest of the dog breeds and eventually, her guarding instincts will kick in. They have been showing now for the last 2 weeks she is showing she can look after things. She just found her bark, she doesn’t bark outside she barks in the house, she’s very quiet outside which i can assure you my neighbours love cause she has a very loud and menacing bark. She is extremely loving towards me more and more everyday, sometimes overly affectionate but that’s ok because she was never shown much of anything. I was just able to get her in the car and take her to a dog park for the first time and she was so scared but once a dog played with her she was loving life. She kept coming back to me to lean on me and i’ve only had her a month, so she is doing very well. She cries to play with my cat but my cat Rocky wants nothing to d with her, she doesn’t even chase the cat, she is becoming such a great dog.
My dog’s will rub my face in the morning to wake me up. My girl and I stare at each other for log periods when playing. I’ve started rubbing my head on theirs to show affection and of course the belly rubs. They are a goofy bunch but I love these two Dachshunds to death. They have to be touching me when they sleep to lol.
I did have to stop the ownership behavior like expecting to sit in my lap, going first, and mild aggressive I’m the boss behavior. I did so by only letting them in my lap if I say, going through doors first, and making them do what I ask before giving treats.
I loved reading this article. I see my baby, BUTTY, doing all the loving things we all mention. My little Corgi came as a companion to me. Even at 72 yrs old, I go out to throw balls, toys, walks and have all the fun of a youngster! Thank you to all the little friends out there that help us live!
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I have an English Cream Golden Retriever. Every morning he wakes me by jumping on the bed and rubbing his head against my face and licking me, and leaning against me. He only does this particular behavior only in the morning just after waking. He’s 11 months old and sleeps on the floor near my bed some of the night and then on the cool tile floor part of the night. There is some evening up/down off of the bed playing with chew toys in the evening, but no rubbing/greeting behavior like in the morning. I’m lucky to have such an affectionate dog as I live alone at 60 years old. He sits at my feet in the morning after he’s done eating while I’m drinking coffee. Love my boy, Diver!
My dog is a lb heeler mix and sometimes she talks back to me or ignores me. I find this behavior annoying and unsafe for her. She does however follow me everywhere I go. I think the heeler side is what she acts out in some instances. She is spoilt rotten.
We have a heeler mix as well. His name is Moose. He is the most stubborn dog. I have a jack Russell and Yellow lab. Moose is the oldest and definitely suffers from only child syndrome. He’s jealous. Will try to snap at the younger dogs if we pet them or if they get near us. We are working on that. He is also our cry baby. He’s like a 5 year old who doesn’t want to share mom and dad. All 3 pups are super affectionate. They give hugs and want to spoon. Lol
We have a heeler mix as well. His name is Moose. He is the most stubborn dog. I have a jack Russell and Yellow lab. Moose is the oldest and definitely suffers from only child syndrome. He’s jealous. Will try to snap at the younger dogs if we pet them or if they get near us. We are working on that. He is also our cry baby. He’s like a 5 year old who doesn’t want to share mom and dad. All 3 pups are super affectionate. They give hugs and want to spoon. Lol
thank you , you are very very informative . I love my puppy so much because she loves me everyday in every way. I thank God I have my Millie a maltese/yorkie female.
I love my puppy very much and she shows me such love I never knew.
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I had originally googled why does my dog pat my arm 3 times while i brush him and scrolling down i found this article. My lab, germ Sheppard, Rottweiler, pit bull mix is the biggest love sponge around. At least to myself and those he knows. Otherwise he can be slightly aggressive to strangers or people that go near the house or car when hes in it. I sometimes have to hold someones hand while he sniffs them to show him theyre ok. A treat or two later and hes got a new friend to shower with love. He does all your article says and more. Hes so human like at times its scary. Love him to no end.
We have a Standard poodle. She is such a sweet love bug. We laugh because she steals my flip flops everyday and puts them in her bed. She doesn’t chew things or the flip flops, she just likes to have them to cuddle with. Silly girl.
That’s so cute, lol!
Laying here with my pitbull terrier Polly. Rescued her seven years ago. She is mine and my wife’s third dog, over a 36-year span. By far my favorite. 4 years ago I got very physically i l l. If not for Polly and my butter half, I might not have made it through. She woke me up every morning, to get me up and out of the house to take her for a walk. And as we all know walking is a great cure for all ailments. Shows love all the time by licking, and leaning all over us, putting her toys on us. When we leave the house, we always come home to her laying on our shoes that she has pulled out of the closet. She even gives hugs when close enough will come put her head on my shoulders when I say hugs. We can’t sell each other enough affection… Totally true statement (it’s not the dog, it’s the owner).
Laying here with my pitbull terrier Polly. Rescued her seven years ago. She is mine and my wife’s third dog, over a 36-year span. By far my favorite. 4 years ago I got very physically i l l. If not for Polly and my better half, I might not have made it through. She woke me up every morning, to get me up and out of the house to take her for a walk. And as we all know walking is a great cure for all ailments. Shows love all the time by licking, and leaning all over us, putting her toys on us. When we leave the house, we always come home to her laying on our shoes that she has pulled out of the closet. She even gives hugs when close enough will come put her head on my shoulders when I say hugs. We can’t show each other enough affection… Totally true statement (it’s not the dog, it’s the owner).
I have always been accused of being an animal person. I never hurt an animal, and always showed animals respect. The one day I decided I was ready to give my love to a dog. the next day one of my granddaughters called and asked if I wanted a dog. One look at her and I knew. 2 days later I went and picked her up. She was 6 months old. Her owner had passed away. Her name was Mia. I was asked if I was going to change her name. Course I hemmed and hawed, started to walk back to the van and a name just came to me. I turned around and said the name and she instantly responded to it. Since that day, her and I have a tremendous bond. I have to say that the Creator was on myside that day. She is husky/Shepard. Not even a trickle of aggression from her. She knows when someone is scared of her. She barks when she feels someone is too close to the yard. Does that with no aggression, just a warning. She is my shadow. I actually got her to say I Love You. When we are playing tug of war with her rope, I pull her close to me and kiss her head, she emits a little growl, I do that 3 times after that I let go and she does her wild side to side shaking of the rope and come back for more.
I have a firehouse apple head chihuahua that I love and need more than the air that I breathe he is my son chewiethe gaboo…he never misses communion either
I have a Shiba Inu rescue. She was abused but is very affectionate to me but not to my husband. She won’t go near him but will come to the room and huff at him. She’ll howl at him and then run away. Any tips on how to deal with this. We are being patient as we have only had her 3 months.
My first dog, Mariposa taught me more about unconditional love than I thought possible. I helped deliver her from my wife’s dog, she was the runt and from that moment on she had my heart. I wish I could have loved her as purely and unconditionally as she loved me. She past away from cancer in April 2022. Losing Mariposa was so difficult that I was reluctant to get another dog for fear of going through that pain again. A friend who was fostering a dog asked if I was interested, but I declined. A short time later she was surprised when that dog gave birth to six pups, and she reached out again asking for my help finding them good homes and possibly fostering a few after 8 weeks if they hadn’t been rehomed, sending me pics of all the pups. Five looked like perfect adorable Maltese pups, but one was extremely different than the others, bigger, short straight course hair, completely different body type with an athletic build, like a mini yellow lab or whippet. Using “Rehome” by “Adopt A Pet” the five were all adopted at 8 week, but nobody was interested in the other pup. I took her until I could find her a good home as a favor to my exhausted friend. That was 15 months ago. I really tried to find her a forever home for several months, but I always found some excuse why every applicant wouldn’t be a good fit until I realized the problem was me, I had fallen for her and couldn’t let her go. While Mariposa had a girly-girl personality, Lyla is a tomboy that loves to run and play rough. She doesn’t have an aggressive bone in her body, immediately becoming submissive when her rough play irritates another dog, she wants to befriend every living thing she meets, cats, birds, possum’s, dogs & people. And she is incredibly affectionate, always by my side. When I give her loving’s while we are outside playing, Lyla gets this wild energy boost and takes off at light speed running around the yard with a look of pure joy. Yeah, she has my heart now.
We have a dog named Benny who is two 1\2 years old. Recently he has become fixated on nibbling on our clothing and skin. He uses his front teeth and he doesn’t actually bite or tear the clothing. We see some wetness but not excessive saluvating. It started out of blue two weeks ago when I was wearing a sun dress with embroidered beads. Now it is constant behavior. Is this a form of affection or is there a reason he is doing this now? We have not changed our laundry soap?